Why We Can’t Live Without Our Non-Negotiables

Around the office recently we’ve been talking about Seane Corn’s ‘non-negotiables’ that she shared with us on stage at the Together Tour last year –the six things she commits to each and every day to bring her best self into the world.

In tough times, it’s incredibly easy to feel inadequate, overwhelmed and burnt out. Our bodies are accustomed to shutting down and withdrawing, and we often seek substances as a way to change how we feel. But what has worked for Seane is sustainability and commitment.

Our Together team is also committed; to ourselves, and to each other. We’ve given a lot of thought to our own non-negotiables. Take a look below at what keeps us happy, healthy and hopeful. And we’d love to hear yours! Send them our way at togetherliveteam@gmail.com.

Maggie – Director of Brand Strategy

  • Sleep. If I don’t get a good night’s sleep, I’m truly not a person the next day. I won’t sacrifice my sleep for anything! This is my hard and fast rule of self-care.
  • Therapy. Sometimes you’ve just gotta talk it out. I think a lot of us are taught to sweep the tough stuff under the rug and run away from heartbreak. But running towards it instead is the only way I know how to get through it. It also always feels like I’m doing my future self a solid.
  • Writing. The more I write the more I know what I’m trying to say. Putting pen to paper keeps me centered and helps me figure out where I stand on certain things.
  • Drink water. Easy to do, but easy to forget.
  • Good peeps. Being around my friends and family is the most reliable and best medicine. It’s an instant cure all. But I’ve learned the hard way that it’s about quality over quantity – you have to let go of the things and the people that don’t serve you.
  • IDGAF. Sitting on the sidelines doesn’t feel good anymore. March, write, call, scream and shout. It’s time to go the mattresses. (I’ve never seen The Godfather. This is, obviously, a You’ve Got Mail reference).

Jamie – Community Manager

  •  Early-morning routine. Mornings are when I have my precious ‘me’ time. Before I head to the office, I exercise, have coffee & breakfast and read the news. An early start helps me clear my head and stay more focused & energized throughout the day.
  • Well-balanced diet. I’m a big foodie – I love to cook almost as much as I love trying new restaurants and dishes. There are very few foods I won’t eat or try at least once – but portions are key. I love the way my body feels when it’s fueled with healthy foods – but I’ll never say no to a bite of an extra-fudgy brownie or juicy cheeseburger.
  • Exercise. From a casual jog to the two marathons I’ve completed, I’ve always found running to be one of the most calming activities. I also love the fun & competitive aspects of group classes – anything from cycling to yoga to Tabata to Pilates.  No matter the exercise, I try to keep active five times per week.
  • Affection. I’ve always believed that everything happens for a reason. But when you see the ones you love continuously get knocked down, it’s hard to keep convincing yourself of that. The universe is funny that way. I’m never guaranteed another day with the people I love the most. So I’ve made a point to tell them how I feel, even with the simplest of texts or shortest of phone calls, each and every day.

Caitlin –Director of Operations

  •  Clean eating. In the last few months I’ve shifted to eating a plant based diet. In a typical Western diet, food = pleasure, so we treat mealtime as our tri-daily dopamine hang. But for a moment, let’s put a pin in that and consider another view – that food is medicine. I KNOW, WHAT FUN? But before you hurl yourself into traffic, consider the idea that you ultimately won’t need to “work” (exercise excessively, take a million pills, many visits to specialist doctors etc.) as hard to be healthful, if every few hours you feed your body with medicine instead of those feel good chemicals that ultimately leave you feeling depleted.
  • Sleep. I don’t mess around with sleep.  You know how sometimes your friends are all “Hey wanna hang at some house this weekend where you may be sleeping on a kitchen floor, and I don’t think there’s extra pillows? But it’s ok because life is about adventures right! You coming?? Cait..?” No sir. No I will not be attending. Sleep is my #1 pal. And at this point in my life I know what it takes for me to get it and I don’t compromise that, even for your kitchen floor adventure weekend. Every day your bod gets filled up with toxins, and when you sleep it finally has a ‘lil downtime to clear them out. To get good sleep, I turn my phone off and stop scrolling the internets around 9, and then I watch or read something funny and light-hearted (see “Lolz”). Also, I’ve been reading about how the most important hours of sleep are 11-1am, so I’m trying to get to bed by 10:45ish.
  • Exercise. I’m all about helping my body expel toxins. Working out has always been a part of my life, but something that’s shifted my view for the better was learning that exercise and sweating is one of the most important ways your body rids itself of toxins. This has made it feel like less of a chore. Previously, if I had to choose between more sleep and exercise, sleep would win because I thought sleep=health, and exercise=vanity with a side of health. But now I hold the two with the same regard.
  • Lolz. Just about all of the media I consume is comedy. Books, TV, podcasts etc., my MO is I’m either learning or laughing because life is dramatic enough on its own, I don’t need to drown myself in someone’s made-up garbage problems. I loved how Seane Corn included joy as one of her non-negotiables, because it’s something I’m trying to be more intentional about. But one thing I’ve always been good about is making sure every day I consume some content that makes me laugh.

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